Posted: August 6, 2012 in Uncategorized

Cindy wrote this, truly amazing! I believe if we would subscribe to kingship, many things would change in our families and nation.


You, the target of verbal abuse, have one mission in your efforts to end verbal abuse: keep your emotions in check.

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Love without compassion is possessive, controlling, and dangerous.

The simplest definition of emotionally abusive behavior is anything that intentionally hurts the feelings of another person. Since almost everyone in intimate relationships does that at some time or other in the heat of an argument, emotionally abusive behavior must be distinguished from an emotionally abusive relationship, which is more than the sum of emotionally abusive behaviors.

In an emotionally abusive relationship, one party systematically controls the other by:

Undermining his or her confidence, worthiness, growth, or trust
“Gaslighting” – making him/her feel crazy or unstable
Manipulating him/her with fear or shame.
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“You shouldn’t spend so much on clothes, you don’t look good anyway.”
“Don’t complain about how bad you have it, no one else could love you.”
“Working and taking courses is too much for you; you can’t handle what you need to do now.”
“Your friends and family just want something from you.”
“I have to drink to be able to stand you.”
“One of these days you’ll wake up, and I’ll be gone.”
“You don’t know the first thing about raising kids.”

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Interesting read – Prophetshrek

Yesterday, I talked about a recent brouhaha over some comments by Douglas Wilson and Jared Wilson (no relation) over at The Gospel Coalition about gender and marriage. Jared quoted a book by Dougla…

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Posted: July 18, 2012 in Uncategorized

I love this story, a great look a masculinity

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His name is Bill. He has wild hair, wears a T-shirt with holes in it, jeans and no shoes. This was literally is wardrobe for his entire four years of college. He is brilliant. Kind of esoteric and very, very bright. He became a Christian recently while attending college.

Across the street from the campus is a well-dressed, very conservative church. One day Bill decides to go there. He walks in with no shoes, jeans, his T-shirt, and wild hair. The service has already started and So Bill starts down the aisle looking for a seat.

The church is completely packed and he can’t find a seat. By now people are really looking a bit uncomfortable, but no one says anything. Bill gets closer and closer and closer to the pulpit and, when he realizes there are no seats, he just squats down right on the carpet. (Although perfectly acceptable…

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At my church like many other churches they have a Men’s Ministry group, although I feel the name should be changed to “Men that Minister.” Anyway, I am always baffled when I am around men and they comment about how they seem to have a hard time connecting with their wives. Or when they share their displeasure of their marriage to me. This happened a long time ago in case someone is lurking and being nosy.

Now, first of all I must let it be known that I certainly do not occupy the corner of the market on wisdom in marriage, nor am I an expert on anything but knowing one thing for sure and that is that Christ came for restoration, and that we should seek restoration in all relationships if possible. I say “if possible” because it takes two too tango. Free will is involved. But when two persons will is to be restored and they seek the great Restorer then all things are possible.

Speaking to men – You can’t tell me that you don’t know how to relate to your wife, or that you don’t have time for her or the kids because you are always working. Listen guys, I know that you had plenty of time for her when you pursued her before you were married. I know that on some nights you got maybe three hours of sleep before work the next morning, because you wanted to stay near her all night. Just to be close to her was your every desire. Nothing else mattered to you. Remember those days?

I know I do.

This is all she wants. This is what she deserves. She deserves to be seen. She wants to be seen. Why do you think so many girls that grow up in dysfunctional homes dress provocatively? They have a desire to be seen. They were never seen by their fathers as a princess and so their quest to be seen begins. Please don’t let this happen to your little girls, make sure they know their the princess in you life.

Make sure you wife knows she is the queen in your life! Listen here guys. Lets be frank. Every man wants a woman at his feet. But you have to have a commanding presence for her to want to sit at your feet. Commanding not demanding! A big difference! Also (here come the stones) I believe every woman wants to feel safe enough and loved enough to sit at her kings feet. But first you have to be a king, act like a king, and make sure she knows that she is not only seen by you but adored by you.

In short – If you die for her, she’ll live for you!

True Headship and Submission is an allusive mystery to many, but when you understand this principle it is the most beautiful thing in life.

Sound familiar? It should, because it is a biblical principal. Jesus Himself died for us, His bride that we might live for Him!

The Creators Clay

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Matthew 5:44 has always rattled my cage. Let me tell you why. For 24 years I worked behind the walls of three different prisons in California. During this time I was surrounded by hundreds of inmates. Inmates that didn’t like me. Inmates that want to attack me or inmates that wanted just to wreck my day. To be fair, not all inmates were that way though. So it’s safe to assume that I was there enemy and they were mine. How was I supposed to love somebody that I was tackling or love somebody that was trying to stab me.

Well, it dawned on me that I was loving my enemies, but not in the way that the typical Christian, who follows a typical official church script believes. So if anybody is an expert at loving their enemies, I surely had become the expert.

Well as a prison guard, I learned to listen to the Holy Spirit and apply mentoring to inmates that I felt would receive the wisdom I had to offer. Sometimes this wisdom or guidance would come out within a day or two after being in a physical confrontation with the same individual. Many times after being in a fight with one of these guys we both learn to respect each other and from that a relationship will develop at least a relationship in as much that could be developed within the confines of understanding that he was the inmate and I was the guard.

From there a dialogue started, and if the Holy Spirit blessed it then the it was pretty easy to tell. If not, maybe somewhere down the road it would be blessed. Anyhow, it didn’t matter, it was God who initiates salvation and is responsible for the ears to be opened not me. I am just His servant.

Doug Burrell, The Creators Clay

Gallery  —  Posted: June 29, 2012 in Jesus, Masculinity, Religion
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