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My wife wrote an article titled “The World Still Needs Kings” you can find it here.

In my opinion it was one of her greatest posts, yet she barely received any comments from anyone. Which is odd because it was very inspirational and perfect for the times. As the title suggests, the content deals with men being real men. Not some sissified version of what we have today. I also am firmly convinced that the church is gravely afraid of men stepping into this role. They always talk about wanting men to step up to the plate. But what they mean by that is “church attendance” and that’s it! Going to all night prayer meetings and men breakfasts. The church draws the lines on masculinity because they want to play it safe. Real men aren’t safe. Real men can be dangerous. There is collateral damage in battles between good and evil. There hasn’t been a battle in the church in a long, long time. There hasn’t been a battle because men aren’t engaging in battle anymore. They have lost the desire and ability to fight.

God forbid if a man were to speak the truth in a group of feminist church-going people! Why that would be very offensive and insensitive. We have to be all inclusive in the name of tolerance too. No wonder men hate going to church. Funny, how every time I go on this rant I am labeled as a chauvinistic neanderthal.

Furthermore, I am told that because the younger generation uses every form of social networking on the computer that I must do so as well in order to connect with them. I hate texting, it’s bondage! So is technology. Guys have their heads down so much looking into that stupid little phone that they are not aware of their surroundings. I see it all the time in church too, it drives me crazy. I have mentioned my irritation with it and I’m told to be accepting. What a load of BS!

Being aware of my surroundings is vital if I am going to be able to protect someone from an attacker. That is one of the reasons men are physically bigger and stronger. That’s why we have a rage inside of us when we see an injustice. Unless that too has been buried by political correctness and tolerance. Man I hate that word “tolerance.” Men have buried their instincts so much that it has been replaced with fear.

Most women who read this are going to disagree with me too because for a woman to accept this concept she must give up control, she must be completely trusting and be willing to follow her man. Again it may appear to be dangerous to do this, but in a true kings arms is the safest place to be.  Now do not confuse a legalistic family dictator with a true king or playing golf with the pastor doesn’t make you a true king either.  The problem is that there are too few kings around because the church has burnt them all at the stake. The church has followed the world and emasculated the male in the name of tolerance, acceptance, and gentleness. A good man is not always nice, and being nice isn’t always good! Be a good man, not a nice man.

This world is coming to a crossroad where you will all be victims because of your complacency. My God! Men wake up, rise up, gird your loins and act like men of old. Throw away indecision and fear of rejection by your peers. Who gives a rip what others think of you! If God is telling you to “Get Up” then do it! I don’t know about you, but I don’t need any more friends. I can hear the whiners now. “Oh that’s so callous, don’t you think you’re taking this a little far?” So what, I don’t care what you think. And to the people that say they don’t like me. “Stand in line with the others that don’t like me and take a number!”

I am here to please only my God and to give protection, provision, and leadership to my family and kingdom. What is “my kingdom” you ask? Everywhere and anywhere I choose to go!

Do not even begin to tell me where my boundaries are!

Doug Burrell

Copyright @ 2012


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How about this?

Real Men don’t let the world or anyone in the world tell them how to act. That’s been the real problem the entire time. Don’t let your environment dictate your personality. Don’t let your circumstances or other people influence your decisions. Don’t let your job, friends, church, culture, political edicts, or anything but God lead you.

Be a king wherever you go and to all you meet, bow down to no one nor anything.  Go against the grain and forge a new line for yourself.

I am concerned about our young men today. They seem to be growing up a lot slower than when I was young. A 25-year-old of today is practically the equivalent of an 18-year-old, when I was young. When I was 18 the expected norm was for a young man to move out on his own and get his own place. But today you have a lot of 25-year-old’s still living at home with mom. At best, they have a part-time job and spend the rest of the day on Xbox. Sure somebody could say, well the economy is bad. There is no full-time work out there. What’s wrong with getting a second part time job?

But my bigger frustration is the fact that the church does nothing about it. Now if the church was supposed be a place where people were supposed to grow and mature, how come they are not addressing this? I think the church is afraid of pushing too hard. Maybe they feel it’s better to be somewhat politically correct and be gentle on these young men as to not drive them away. Maybe the church feels it’s better to cater to these young men and provide all sorts of fun programs to keep them entertained instead of pushing them out of their comfort zone and teach responsibility and commitment. After all the more people you have attending churches is the benchmark of success isn’t it? So we as the church have joined the world in making things easier for young men. We can make all sorts of excuses as to why this is happening in our culture today. However, this is destroying young men, and it’s destroying relationships between husbands and wives, and is destroying our country.

Men need to experience adversity, especially young men. A man’s character is forged in the heat of adversity and confrontation. So in saying all this I would like to ask my readers to respond to a few questions or circumstances. How should a man handle the following situations. These are scenarios of difficulties that arise in a mans life. Some may seem funny, but the do cause discomfort.

  1. He gets a flat tire.
  2. He takes a girl on a date, and she lets him know in no uncertain terms, that he is to never open the car door for her.
  3. He sees two guys picking on and tormenting another man.
  4. His best friend is being a jerk to his wife. (the jerks wife)
  5. A young boy is being picked on by a bully at school.
  6. In a church youth group, you see everybody jumping up and down, boys and girls alike are acting very emotional, but it makes you feel uncomfortable.
  7. In church, you are being told to hold the hand of the man next to you. Seriously, this makes men feel uncomfortable, yet they still do it. Why?

Well, I’m sure I could think of more but I tried to think of things that are common and address different areas of a man’s life. Some are just related to difficult situations, others to male-female relationships. Others are related to fear of getting hurt and lastly, one is related to, or two actually are related to doing something different just than the mainstream.

So I’m curious as to how you think men should respond to these situations.